It is our experience that results are better if this step is taken
only after careful planning. If you are planning on joining the program
and if you are not already presenting in the nonbirth gender on a regular basis, please wait
until you have joined and discussed your plans.
Planning is particularly important when it comes to transitioning
in the workplace. In addition to helping you plan your transition,
the GPCO can help smooth the way by contacting or meeting representatives
of your company, of course only if you feel this would be appropriate. Approaching
your supervisor appropriately, with respect for his or her position, can
win you indispensable support. Leaving your employers out of the loop
or putting them on the spot, on the other hand, may lose you a job you
needed to keep.
While living in the nonbirth gender consistently is a requirement for those seeking SRS,
it is important not to wreck your life in the process. Maturity in coping
with the often difficult situations SRS candidates encounter is necessary
for a successful transition.
Invariably, those who deal with their gender concerns without completely
disrupting other aspects of their life make the best adjustment, while
those who proceed through the transition in an abrupt and radical manner
-- breaking sharply with the past -- almost always adjust less well. Individuals
who fail to keep goal and process in perspective often find themselves
with a recommendation for SRS but without the financial or emotional resources
to complete the process.
It is not uncommon for candidates to take time and reexamine their options.
We welcome this and encourage people to take time out and reconsider their
goals. However, participants who wish to rejoin the program after an absence
of one year or more may be asked to fill out the intake questionnaire
again and to schedule a meeting to ensure that they have dealt with the
issues that caused them to leave the program.
The costs of the initial psychological evaluation,
individual therapy, and group therapy are minor compared to the
cost of hormone replacement therapy, electrolysis (when needed), and surgery. For that reason we strongly
urge SRS candidates not to put life
on hold until the resolution of their gender issues. It is vital that
people complete their education and pursue long-term career plans before
or simultaneous with their examination of gender issues.